Dating online can a great opportunity for anyone looking to find someone to be with. However, I know many people when first starting out get discouraged when they don’t get the results they were expecting — and more times than not I believe it has to do with their dating profile.
Believe it or not, your profile plays such a huge role in attracting the right type of person you’re looking for, therefore I want to give you my 10 best tips on how to write a good online dating profile.
1. Your User Name
The first thing I would like to address is your username. While many of you will probably just put your first and last name, you have to realize this is also a great opportunity to get creative and come up with something fun and unique.
For example, While I could use my real name Michael Cook — there is nothing unique or memorable about that.
However if I decided to change my username to BaseballMike25, most people’s first reaction would be “ Hey this looks like a guy who’s into baseball.” So right there I have now attracted people who either like sports as I do — or at the very least helped them remember who I am by not just having a boring username.
2. Spend Time On Your Headlines
What you have to realize about the online world, is that people get distracted and jump from one thing to the next very quickly. The same goes for dating online. People usually like to jump from person to person, until they find someone that catches their eye.
Therefore when you are thinking of a headline to put in your box, try to think of something short and exciting that will attract other people.
Instead of writing something plain and seen on almost everyone’s profile like, “I’m looking to find a nice girl” — make it more entertaining such as, “ If you like long walks on the beach and enjoy seeing sunsets, you could be the one for me.”
As you can see with the second one, it’s more enjoyable to read and also again gives your reader an idea of who you are. The next part where you have more space, you can elaborate as to what else you like doing and why.
3. Making your Bio Interesting AND Short
Here in the bio section of your profile, is where you get a chance to show people in more detail what you like and don’t like — and furthermore let them get to know you better.
What I see a lot of people do, is they will just make a huge list of the different types of things they like such as…
Listing out things in this manner is very boring and leaves people with no real insight as to who you are.
Instead, try to make a short story as to WHY you like certain things and how it has shaped you into the person you are today.
You could go into detail how you’ve always loved baseball ever since you were a little kid, and explain what a typical date with a girl would be like if they went with you to a baseball game.
This would make the girl more intrigued to want to date you especially if you left your story with a nice ending like, “my hopes for our date is by the end of the game I will present you will a home run ball that I caught.”
Also as you are creating this story, make it as short and to the point as you can. Again people are busy and get distracted on the internet very easily — so the fewer the words the better.
4. Be honest With What You’re Looking For
One of the worst things you can do when creating your profile, is to mislead people by giving false information.
If you are a guy who wants to just hook up with a girl l, say so! Don’t act like you want to find someone to settle down with in a long term relationship and possibly get married, only because you think that is what they want to hear.
This will do nothing but cause problems for you down the road — and trust me if all you want to do is date and meet new people, there are lots of girls who want that exact same thing as you do.
Also when you start to describe yourself, don’t go lying about different things such as your age, job, and hobbies you enjoy. I’m sure if you’re looking for a girl, you would want her to be upfront and tell you how old she was, if she wants kids in the future, or if she enjoys doing outdoor activities.
So, try to be as honest as possible but not too honest! If you want to find a girl to hook up with and go on a few dates — don’t go into details as to how many girls you’ve been with and what they were like. When you’re this honest, and will drive girls away from you profile very quickly.
5. Have A Winning Picture
The picture you choose is in my opinion one of the most important parts of a successful dating profile.
Lets face it, as humans we are very visually driven — especially with the different kinds of social media platforms we have available to us 24/7.
Therefore when you are choosing a profile picture, there are several key things you can do to help attact people toward you.
Looking Into the Camera
When you make eye contact with someone, if usually gives them a feeling that they can trust you. Also it makes you comes across as more approachable and friendly to talk to.
Having a close up shot of your face is usually more ideal — but if you want a full body picture that is fine too.
It has been proven that people who smile, are approached more positively than ones who don’t. It lets others know that you are a happy person, and if we’re being honest who wants to go out with someone that is depressed or gloomy all the time?
Now I’m not saying every photo you share has to have you smiling in it, but at the very least your main pic should be one that shows you as a happy person.
Have Solo and Group Shots
For you main profile pic, make sure you’re the only that can be seen in it. You don’t want others getting distracted wondering who that person standing next to you is.
This is when you get to show off your best qualities, be it your face or whole body.
After you’ve picked one you like, then you can start adding more picture for people to see, such as ones with your friends and family, along with activities you may enjoy doing.
If you have a pet dog you love, show a few pics of it. If you enjoy going to the beach, show several pictures of you at the ocean with friends.
This will make people see you as more of a real person that can connect with and be more open about wanting to talk to.
Use Only High Quality Photos
Don’t you just hate it when you are trying to view a picture, but have to squint and stare at it for minutes on in to figure out what it is? I know I do.
So when you start adding pictures to your profile, make sure they are of high quality and also have good lighting — that way people can easily see what their looking at.
Even if you have an amazing picture that you love, but it has a slight blur to it — resist using that and find another one that could use instead.
Try Not To Brag About Yourself
Whether you are creating your profile or are talking to someone you just met, always try to refrain from bragging about yourself.
Think about it, when you’re at a party or with a group of friends — don’t you just get tired of that one person who says things like, “ I am great at this, I can beat anyone at this, I have traveled to a new country every year and will continue doing so.”
For example let’s say you like baseball, and you know you’re really good at it. You could talk about it in 2 different ways…
- You could say something like, “I am the star pitcher or my team, and anyone who tries to hit my curve ball misses every single time.”
Or you could say
2. I love playing baseball as it’s one of my most favorite sports, and I have gotten quite good at it as well.
As you can see from the two examples, one clearly seems like he’s bragging about himself, compared to the second one where he just simply says I am good.
So be mindful when you go about creating your bio or talking to someone, and that you stay humble in the way you communicate.
Proofread Your Work
Having a well written profile is good and all, but if you write it in a way where people can’t understand or comprehend what you are trying to say — then you’re not going to have many people contacting you.
So in my opinion as you are creating your profile, bio, and headlines — just write everything down that comes to your mind, then after you’re finished go back and see if there’s any spelling or grammar mistakes you need to fix.
This will keep people from second guessing what you’re trying to say, and also think about it… going back and re reading something 2 or 3 times over is just a huge headache right? Ya I thought so.
Be Specific In Your Wording
Whether you’re talking about the kinds of foods you like, or places you enjoy going — make sure you are being specific in the types of things you like.
If you just say “ I like going to nice restaurants to eat out” — people reading this are going to roll their eyes and say who doesn’t?
Instead go into the specific foods and types of restaurants you enjoy. For me, I love pizza and could eat it almost any day. So in my bio I would say something along the lines of…
“One of my all time favorite foods is pizza. In my town we have a small pizza restaurant I like going to every Friday night. The thing I love most about their pizza, is they are huge — where one slice is almost enough to fill you up. Also when they serve the pizza, my mouth starts watering, as I see the melted cheese dripping down the sides of it.”
Again, it’s all about making things short and interesting so people can get to know you, and at the same time not get bored to death reading the same thing they’ve seen on everyone else’s page.
When creating your profile, try to stay as upbeat as you can.
Many people and maybe even if you, have had some bad relationships in the past — so it’s easy to say that you’re looking for someone new to date because your ex’s treated you bad.
I’ll tell you right now, girls and guys both don’t want to hear about another person past problems or what kind of current drama you may have going on in your life right now. At Least not in your profile page where you’re trying to “attract” people.
Therefore, try to always stay positive and talk about all the things you enjoy, are grateful for, and paint a picture of the ideal type of girl or guy you would like to date. Trust me, you’ll see a much better response if you do this.
Have A Call To Action
What I mean by this, is at the very end of your profile tell your reader to contact you if they think you might be their type.
Again I’ve said it several times, but people on the internet lose focus very fast — so if you don’t tell them what to do, more likely than not they aren’t going to do anything.
So going back to me, if I were to have a call to action I would probably say something like, “ If long walks on the beach and staring at sunsets interest you, send me a message and we can get to know each other better.”
Just by having a simple call to action like in the example I just showed, you’ll see a dramatic increase in messages sent to you.
Your profile like it or not, plays one of the most important roles when trying to find a partner online. Even though you should take some time to think about what you want to say — you shouldn’t spend hours and hours worrying about if it is perfect or not.
You simply just want to write it as if you were talking to your best friend — and keep in mind some of the key points I mentioned like, having a good picture, having a good headline, and keeping things to the point and positive.
If you do this, I have no doubt that you’ll have guys or girls messaging you left and right.
Have you ever joined a dating site before, and if you so what was your experience like when creating your profile?
Leave me a comment below letting me know how it was, or if you have any more questions please don’t hesitate in asking — and I’ll be more than happy to get back with you as soon as possible.